Just grey ticks on whatsapp. He was a perfect gent. Please help me out! How have you been? He asked me out again right there. I needed chill and someone who was responsive. Hes 40, and even though I thought it might be too soon, had me meet his 6-yr-old about 1.5/ 2 months in (twice). So, instead of enjoying your life, youre wondering what you should text him to let him know that his behavior isnt right. I dont know what happened but its a horrible way to treat a person, nevermind someone youre sexually/emotional whatever involved with. It doesnt take 2 seconds to text and say Ok, this isnt working out. It would have stung, but at least I wouldnt be wondering what was going on. Its making me so sad. Im a guy. Who have said they want to MARRY you? He calmly and adamantly said no. He claimed to not understand i himself, he fekt numb, and disappeared for a day more or less. I feel as if I no longer mean anything to him and this is very hurtful and heartbreaking. Regardless of living in the same town we never hung out together because I was always too shy to meet him. Thanks Moon. Initially, I felt what Is It about me what wasnt Enough for him. Its not about you, but about his issues. Id probably be stupid and let him just go back to my life. Being stuck up. It does hurt really bad, but I believe the issues are within him. Im so confused and stress with this situation. One minute, all fun and loving . The fairytales that daddy read to you before tucking you in at night were fantasies. If youre busy or youre not into it or whatever, thats fine. Even if it hurts. in other words some women i have dated became less and less someone i could be with the more i got to know them. As we walked to the train station I made a joke (im very sarcastic) about knowing how to make my way home if I had sneaked out early as he lives by a landmark. He agreed and said he should of called or answered my phone calls. Last week he suggested at last minute to meet that evening. You can realize that youre not ready for a relationship and simply admit that to the other person or you can sneak out and leave them hanging as if youre better than them and they dont deserve to know the reason. No man worth anything is going to commit to you. I thought that was very rude and of course it hurts. But it will be if you dont back off and give him space. Like he did too and I could see myself with him. He also said he would pay half of the plane ticket since it was so we could see each other. We went out on a Friday night and I unintentionally drank to much alcohol and said some horrible things to him in public. But the banter carried on just before this theres nothing and changed there whatsoever but I am starting to feel a bit of a distancing situation occurring? I too am going through the ghosting of a guy i met.. His 32, am 27. Yet he still doesnt talk to me or see me help!?! I sent back a response to say hope you feel better and that water was what the doctor ordered. So learn from this how to spot someone who may ghost: At a point, I had enough and I told him that it was best to call things a day and move on! He invites me after work to see him at his place for a bit. Not in this day and age. Me Well things were never the same after. To state it more clearly, myself and many of my close friends have dated women who at first seem pretty wonderful, but their interest in us as PEOPLE takes a distant back seat to their interest in us as men. If you feel the need to check up on him, go look at funny YouTube videos or call a friend. It was so easy! By all standards, she was the definition of a loser. It wasnt until those days after I spent the night which was his idea. 1: because he is married and Ive never initiated contact, he always did. Im just thankful I dont have to go further with any of them. She is self absorbed. Rachel, although Im a lot older than you, I completely understand what you are going through. You are least know why. Hes only a lesson and nothing more than that. Save the sweet talk for when you are interested in a woman, youll be doing your self and a lot of women a favor. No texts, no callsnothingbecause if you text him, and you dont get a reply, you will be obsessing about it for the next three, four daysIve been there, I knowIts the worst feeling everAnd if you have already texted him, dont text him anymore and keep yourself busy so you dont think about him anymore, for the sake of your own mental well being..Just let him take the lead now and then respond accordingly.. He texted me about 30 min after we left and we continued texting the rest of the night. Email: hello@hayleyquinn.com. First I meet someone on line - text for a week or 2 telegenic he disappears! She really likes him so its hard to leave. Hugged and kissed me goodbye, and told me hed be bringing me the truck the next morning so I could use it for work the next week. I was not texting that much, scared of disturbing him.. he was the one texting. Did he attempt to ask favors? Im going to back off my guy and focus on me. We are looking forward toI think it would be a great fun experience and you would enjoy it. A part of me wants to reach out and acknowledge that we werent exclusive, but I thought he valued communication and was under the impression he would have extended that courtesy to say not interested or whatever what do you think? He comes back home text me and we message a lot (we had just shared a long kiss nothing more). Then one night he revealed his true self and I realised he had just be playing or messing with me when he had gone over board at the beginning. i stoped texting him and i moved on, i detached myself from him and all the memories. He never answered back. He gave me his house address, out of a joke, and I delivered cakes to his home..personally, before I invited him off for a cup of coffee. I was excited because it had been a while since I acutally liked someone one a little bit. I am in my 40s and have been chatting online for a few years, I have met all sorts, and have learnt the hard way too, that this is just not for me anymore. I met a guy on an online dating website (needless to say, profile is now closed). Its mainly been me texting him and he does text back when I do, but it just feels like theres something going on with him. Damn right here! He says hes staying where he is and she lives in a nearby town. I have been with someone for three months . When youre feeling down, just remember the Stones song, You cant always get what you want, but if you try sometimes youll find you get what you need. And I love all my sisters out there and their advice, but they will always think I deserve better and so do the guys. It just got me as it seemed he blew so hot and then that was it. He never showed, knowing I needed the truck, ignored my text and calls, and just disappeared. He isnt a social person so I know hes not out at night and I know hes home most weekends. He ended texting me that week telling me Im sorry I couldnt get a hold of you. Humans are complicated. I still feel insulted and angry, because I really believe he owed me. He may start to withdraw, to lose interest, and you just feel that something is off. Then he had an issue with his ex and I didnt hear a word for 12 hours. We talk again on the phone for another hour the next night and I am on cloud nine. Reading this message will probably make him reply to you. xxx. Im really not sure yet what to think of my situation. I agreed. During the way back I was quiet and I felt unsecure about tI his date. It does become difficult when I have strong feelings for the person. About 2 months ago he change jobs so we started seeing each other on our off days. I want everything he have to offer, idc what baggage he have, he shouldnt deal with it alone, I WANT TO BE THERE. 4. There was a hotel opposite the parking station and he suggested we spend the night together. That was it . This guy welcomed me into his home and made me feel like part of his family, he made plans for us to do things together and treated me with respect, I felt like his friend. Thank you so much for this article! A day before valentines day we were texting and laughing at each other and he was supposed to pick me up that day after work but didnt answer my call so I thought he fell asleep. Mine has blocked me from calls , texts maybe even emails, the feeling of anxiety is off the charts I feel like Im spinning down the drain to be discarded like I meant nothing to him Ugh, its awful- and in the midst of no communication with me , the couple therapy dr reaches out to him to confirm an apply, and he says he will be there next week for a session, I think I am having more anxiety over the fact that he wont show up?? Maybe hes not as good/quick/patient at texting as much. Its okay for them to distract us when they feel like it. If he wanted to reach out to you, he would have. He pursued me like crazy in the beginning. And when I would call he never called back or mentioned that I called. so.. Sabrina is right :), OMG!! Danielles avoid list: Make sure that you give a day or two's break. This needs to change. There are so, so, so many guys in the world and you have to find one that will pursue you, and trust me, hes out there. Go find someone who actually wants to be with you someone that you dont have to wonder about. I was really disappointed for awhile because I really liked him. Good on you for telling her straight up. I email him to say good luck with a work thing that was coming up.nothingzero contact from him. we dated a few more weeks then he said he had to go on a deployment and he came to see me when he got back. Once I got him to open he he told me he is confused and he doesnt know what he wants in life and has so much going on. What? I think that by confronting the person that disappeared if he or she is doing it because of past emotional problems it could help them overcome them. I confronted the guy I was seeing that played the disappearing act twice. Thats why I want you to know that I have certain expectations when it comes to dating. Thats also happened to me now. He doesnt deserve you in the first place and you shouldnt even consider waiting for him. 1) his attraction to you probably wasnt very strong; many guys do this, they multiple date and love the attention and the options. One being he gave me a STD and wasnt aware that he could pass it on to me (Or was he thinking it would never happen to him?) (My lead because he cheated.) Its the worst pain ever. I met this boy at party, he seemed very interested and asked for my number a lot of times during the party at the end I decided to give him my phone number because he was so nice and thought he deverved an oportunity. The day you have a daughter and this happens to her. She didnt take it well of course lol (she told me she was a very good listener!!! If Im not worth a reply text, youre not worth my time. then one day poof he dissappeared. Dont do it. How do you cope when he disappears from your life? Insecure? I have this experience last year, I dated a man but things were too rush in 3 months. I knew he had a big meeting with his boss so I told him I wouldnt bug him until later. Man, I really miss my husband! I also assume they will disappear most of the time.I find most of the men lie or cheat or arnt emotionally ready for a relationship. Dating should be for the intent to marry and settle down. Just remember..people always make time if something is important to them.so that really is one lame excuse from his side.forget about him, the right one will come and make you forget about all the bad things of the past.keep strong and dont bother wasting one more second on this guy!!!! I need help!!!! Thought he was just wasting my time. I cant seem to forget this guy. Now that that was out of nowhere. He texted me two weeks ago and told me he like ld my fb profile pic and that I was the best dancer he knew (i dance jazz contempo). Val We started seeing each other. Oh my God I went through literally the same thing! I am honest in my interactions and friendly and Im not judgemental. On his birthday he said he couldnt wait to spend his next birthday with me. I just cant understand how someone can go from being sooo close and attached to you to just no contact and so dry. I loved her madly so rather than whine, I disappeared for a day and half, she chased asked me if I was ok but her tone became angry very quickly so I asked her to talk calmly and we can talk on the phone but she said she didnt want to talk! no plans, no more i love you. He hates being lied too and cant even be frank with me or others. We used to be really close friends and when we tried something more (HE startes it) he dissappears. LOL funny! He doesn't really want a real relationship. To clarify I wasnt aware that he had an STD. Sorry for such a long post! He sounds exciting but in reality extremely immature, might shower attention on you when youre together, but in reality knows youre special and hes not so ghosts hanging out posting pics of other girls to beef himself up regardless of how that might make you feel. We never had a real argument. But, Im still not use to it and it worries me every time. Never much input from him. No movement. good education, professionals). he would always say stuff like yeah we should go do something for real but after 4 months we still did not do anything till I aventually orgenised something . I dont know. I wish that if a guy has lost interest theyd say so. I felt better when I confronted him because I have found there are lot of men or women that need to respect themselves and the other person even if you think there is going to be drama. He was clearly pulling away. he knows that this would drive me nuts! Im a guy and I did that all the time, although not for the reasons mentioned here. He had to go under. Its evident you cant deal with confrontation head on and act like an immature boy that rather take the easy yet cowardly way out. after that question I wrote how come hasnt he answers me its been two days and he hasnt replied so iam wondering since he was finishing up his paper waist because hes super busy or did he lose instreasted in me after that question I asked him and why I really like him did I chase him away with something I asked him?? Trust me, thats the way I prefer it. You know what ladies.. after reading these comments, all I have to say is men are men, regardless of what age. Hurts more when they tell you they will call you and pretend everything was great. It sounds so similar to mine! It just hurts cause I really did fall for him and he looked me in my eyes and said how so in love he was. Although we do share some similar patterns, we are all different given our familial, cultural, and even racial background. Since I knew that he is married with two sons and I do not want any troubles, I declined when he offered to meet in real. Move on because you deserve that! Tomorrow will be 7 days that we have not spoke to each other and I am not sure if were still together or not but I just do not feel that a 7 minute conversation should cause a person to not talk to you for this long. He then started fading. I also told him probably he thought I was one of the girls who said how high when he said Jump. I go over everything that we said to each other over the last 15 months, there doesnt seem to be any reason to pretend your in love or lie, he could have left anytime if he didnt have those feelings, I gave him the opportunity when things got hard because of the time difference, but he insisted that we were worth the extra effort needed, and I thought that too. 10 years of texting and chatting can be dispelled after 10 seconds with a person if you just dont feel that personal connection face to face; and its really about more than just attraction, people have a way about them, and it might just make you uncomfortable, like someones energy is just not at all what you expected. Im experiencing that kind of scenario at the moment. BUT heres the thing- it seems some women i meet dont understand that whereas you can gradually get to like her more, you can also learn to like her LESS over time. If he disappears, it's because he isn't the right guy for you. Me too, I said I wouldnt take him back, but somehow I get caught up with his charm and hilarious personality only for him to fade out. If a relationship was deep enough, men owe us. which was why he suddenly felt the need to reach out..In fact he sought me out twice that day which broke down all my screwed up defensesand I gave in and texted him on Sunday casually ofcourse but still *Bangingmyheadagainstthewall* Why? I too have stressed weeks, so I just responded saying I wished it would get better.. Whenever Ive tried to have it with someone, theyve always wanted to know WHY Im not interested and what can they do to change things. He was soooo into me at first. Interesting. sometimes it seems for women time ALWAYS makes them more emotionally attached and im sure there are exceptions, but for me and for guys i know time will often help you fall out of interest with someone for a whole host of reasons. Since it was online dating, I took it with a grain of salt and tried to not get too excited. shame on me because Im the one who always initiate contact.. but today i deleted his number and ready to throw him where he belong. It wasnt our best date and we did have an awkward conversation at one point about not having very much in common but we still spent the night together and parted on happy terms in the morning. Smh he is playin games and @ freakin35 yrs old grow up man!! As of now, im not texting him again until he wants to text me first so i can at least tell if he still wants to talk with me. Who said you had to stand there and talk to them?!! My response was..- work harder, you hurt my feelings but I moved on and please leave my belongings at my door. She may take that as a lesson moving forward in her interactions with people; to actually listen. Also hes driving his daughter to move to Toronto with her things. I dont understand how we were doing so well and then he just disappears :s he stopped snapchatting in general as well, all his best friends are gone so he doesnt respond to anyone, I was his top snapchatter as well. Since the very first day, I already knew its gonna be hard since hes almost 20 years older than me. Hes told me he loves me and very emotional things, but in the past week or so hes pulled back, and has been cold. My husband passed about 5 months ago and I just started dating again in the last month. Its only been a few days, to be honest, but I am so proud of myself for keeping a tight reign my dignity despite my anger and disappointment at being let down. It sounds like it was a supportive situation for a while at least and maybe thats just what you needed! Recently he started talking about marriage, moving in together, etc. cant seem to find any interests in common, she doesnt ever ask me questions or seem remotely curious in the things i think about. Sad that he didnt respect me enough after all Needless to say when we got off the phone I spent the night crying. I had just got out of a serious relationship and didnt want anything serious. However, you need to be aware of your behavior to decide whether this is the case or not. While dating (but not sleeping with) these men. Your email address will not be published. I pretty much pushed to meet although the agreement to go for a drink was mutual. For the first time in 4 mos he didnt reply back quickly and it was because his mom was sick. BUT If he managed to achieve his objective, he disappeared because there is nothing he wants from you anymore. All seemed great! Thank you for sharing, Charnel. Today is Tuesday, he has not called me or texted me. But this story seems to me an opportunity to share one of the deep frustrations that men have with dating (for some of us its subconscious, but its definitely there), and that is that often we feel more like the object of our partners nurture programming than actually the object of someones affection. that sounds like something that recently happened to me and I am at lost for words. The feeling of being bonded to a man is a powerful force. Its been 2 weeks now. When we were together in the room there was plenty of kissing. When I was a teenager, I was a part of a forum and met a lot of other teenagers there over so many years and one guy in particular I grew really close to. I tried to contact him a few times, no response. I ask myself from time to time Am I doing the right thing by not reaching out? At the same time, I know I did nothing wrong and he was a complete coward to not come forward and tell me he wasnt interested anymore In a way, it was his wrong and I dont need to sorry about anything. Yes, lol, 4 months. Be more simple. Fine, no big deal I deleted his number. He was interested in having sex with you but not so much interested in you. And I would leave him alone after that. To check someones message in class means u r thinking about them. He liked that you liked him, and were up to going out with him. Right now were both not living in our country. So everything changed for me also No hard feelings. You had never even been on a date. Ignoring someone youve been dating for months is one of them. Our convos were dry. Is there a message that is appropriate to the occasion and makes him realize he made a mistake?It's never easy to figure out that a guy who had great potential to be your friend ends up as MIA.. Hes not worthy and/or not really into you and not excited to carry on seeing you. The difficulty very often in these cases (which compounds the process) is that most women (myself included at one time) automatically assume hes vanished because he isnt or has lost interested, so react accordingly, which often only serves in turn to strengthen his original point of view. Or the excuse is we just dont click. When he reached out again to me I told him that I did not think we should go out again because I didnt feel we were a match/were compatible. no response to texts no phone calls no anything. He never showed. As he was driving me home he held my hand and then we kissed good night. The problem here is you met a douchebag. He told me he cheated on both his exes and that at this point he does not want a realtionship. Run, sweetie, run!!!! Now nit only Im stuck in this situation where I put myself after traveling with him for 2 years and half and I spent my money on the relationship. Simple as that. . It turns you into another person, one that is always suspicious or insecure. If you do, then it is possible that I may know the guy you referred to in your comment!!! Your story really affected me! I texted him good luck at the job the night before he started he says thanks :), then I didnt reply till a few days later to see how he was doing we texted back and forth a bit then he stopped, he then texts me two days later to see how I was doing I told him I been going through some stress and all he says was you need anything I am always here for you to talk, this was the first time since we been dating that not once he initiated to see me at all that weekend or anything just texting back and forth and him replying every few hours, I texted him the day after to ask about his weekend then texts me over a day later to say it was good how about you I replied same good weekend also then after that poof never texts me again barely see him on Facebook anymore literally pulled a ghost on me I never been so confused about something like this in my life and I just have this emptiness inside and I cant stop myself from crying, why couldnt he just tell me from the last time I saw him he doesnt want to see me anymore, why text me first then slowly drift away, why drop me when I accepted all his flaws and try to comfort him Everytime he had an episode, why let me meet your family and friends when I wasnt anything serious to you, all these questions stuck in my head like glue and no answers, I know that it takes time to move on but really how can a person just be heartless and cruel like that, its been two weeks, and I hadnt hit him up after he bailed on me cause of family troubles and he hasnt hit me up either. 13. 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