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What will other alcoholics in the pews do or substance abusers who are struggling? Sr. cant make Jr. stop drinking. So I am left with confusion. I say this in support of Velour without being critical to either one of you who may have responded from your own pain. He promised, but when we got there and got my drink, I knew it didnt taste right. It is remarkable how LITTLE one can do for an addict if the addict doesnt want help. Sputter. I am not saying any of that to discourage anyone from seeing a MHP or taking medications. How do you see it different from me? You have no clue what is beneath someones drinking problem, nor does Barbara. He was 78. I would agree that Sproul shouldnt be disqualified due to his ADULT sons issues. People dont have to reinvent the wheel to find help. Barbara wrote a pretty nasty response to me and H.U.G. In short, Velour, I was trying to say that my experience has shaped my view of excommunication as re-defining a relationship from fellowshipping together to reasoning together. Having been raised in a highly abusive alcoholic home (My mom) it sickens me sometimes to read about the love and compassion we should have for the addicted.And for the we are all just sinners crowd your ignorance is truly sickening. A visitation will be held Thursday, March 11, 2023, from 10:00 am - 12:00 pm with the Celebration of Life to begin immediately following at 12:00 pm Sprowl. Its about Love. Membership Covenants to assemble a bevy of personal intimate liaisons, or There was a need for push back, since in the beginning you never outlined your reasons supporting R.C. If you had ever lost a loved one to alcoholism ( Ive lost two ) you would know that entire families can spend every waking minute and all of their financial resources to try to help and get help for their alcoholic family member resulting in failure after devastating failure . Churches frequently blow it on all of the big issues mental health, domestic violence, divorce, and sexual abuse because they remain unteachable and think they have all of the answers. I would call this sin gone amok. We have covered some of these issues through the years. Unfortunately, it means humbling yourself and opening up your family to public inspection. To the best of my knowledge she does not have training in the subject of alcoholism. So you fully agree with what Sproul wrote in that article? He was a success story. I think Annie found sanctuary in the best sense of the word. She just soaked up the love in the very back and left each time. I agree with what you wrote about Sproul 2 and how the different problems should be handled. ): their mom did these very things. 1 Corinthians 5:11-13. That is Gods department. I am sorry to complain, thankyou for sharing about your Dad, Brian. Ashley Madison and then lying, lying, and lying again, never telling the truth about it.Raging at children, taunting them, and trying to erase their mothers memory by destroying and withholding photographs and mementos. Weve already discussed this up the thread. Do people who have alcoholism or other issues get passes from rules and standards that apply to everyone else? One may be a choice, the other, an illness. Thanks. Have to agree. The terrible way I have heard that an alcoholic manipulates others is that he/she will deny drinking, but then plot and plan to do anything that gets them to that next drinkie .. and nothing or no one, not family or innocent people, are considered. they are excellent human beings. And lots and lots of other things that are common problems in alcoholics. Can you please identify the comment? Its fine for you to decide that YOU want to knock it off. Praise God, that is truly His heart and should be ours. http://thewartburgwatch.com/2017/06/21/rc-sproul-jr-is-now-a-convicted-felon-alcoholic-and-is-one-step-away-from-a-tragedy/comment-page-1/#comment-329600. We are called in the Bible to many other things, including loving one another, bearing each others burdens, than simply kicking people out who arent like us. http://www.al-anon.alateen.org/. Im just acknowledging the reality of what was your life and what is their life. Many people including women secretly struggle with addiction in the church. Im fortunate in that my Dad did get sober via AA. But -I think you are over-selling non-church treatment. agreed: if a person does not want to stop drinking, they cant be forced; but if the person gets into enough trouble (ie. Have you taken a DNA test? I had a wound in between my eyes that was so deep you could see the bone. While some people in Celebrate Recovery may advocate divorce, Al-Anon doesnt take that approach for the spouses of problem drinkers. God bless you and your friend in every way, and so glad you are here, Deb. I did check the link that H.A. The ceiling didnt come crashing down and God didnt scream from the rafters, Sinners, the lot of you! I raised a kid that a sibling could not care for, and never, not one time, ever not once was I not there, my nephews words, not mine. so I think that the front-loaded moral and ethical formation of a young person in the Church is a kind of preventative and strengthening function, far more positive than punishment. This may or may not be good advice in some cases, but it is certainly not a rule of thumb in that it assumes that the prior trauma caused the current bad behavior of hurting people and assumes that the person cannot help it when they hurt other people, and assumes that some prior trauma is a life time get out of jail free card for when the alleged victim of prior trauma may continue to hurt people. It does sound phony maybe its not. I cannot even imagine that a church would have no means of church discipline at all, the world being what it is and scripture saying what it does. I feel for his family and his victims but there wont be any hugs coming from my direction. More than likely RC Sproul Jr is a functional alcoholic, if not a high-functioning alcoholic. Hes held down a successful career (or at least hes made a lot of money), been a reasonably successful father, has been held in high esteem by many people, etc. We must try to get help for suffering people: medical intervention AND psychiatric intervention. It runs in the family and has only one Redemptive Hope for each and all who hear the Gospel and by Grace and through Faith put their full Hope in the Righteousness of Christ to Cover (atone for) all mysin or your sin. Sproul 2 has done. You said, Just last week our District Attorney got brought up on 13 felony counts. I can totally understand RCSproul wanting to protect his son, What I dont understand is his lack of faith in Gid dealing with his son. They also have to be willing to cut themselves off from all their friends (the only friends alkies keep are drinkers and other alkies) and make new sober friends. i think we can do without insinuations like this. The other individual was an executive at a corporation (think Sr. Vice President). Heres hoping Dees post will have such an impact on someone that they will resolve to NEVER drink and drive. He is still employed and has his children. I do believe the Word of God is the Word of God and is far superior to anything we could ever dream up in our own minds. Any discussion that veers from the literal path is an attack. (Stay Sweet), As one woman I know who got help for being married to an alcoholic said to me, Sproul 2 should be kicked out of his church and that he wasnt really a believer, etc. In my recent bout with serious pain from psoriatic arthritis, I found that 4 oz. The Bible calls drunkenness a sin. It works some of the time. Family helping an alcoholic usually does not help. Unfortunately, I dont have any chocolate in the house, sad face: . But a sex hook up account? I guess its the just people who have suffered who understand. Pride goeth before a fall, and what a fall RC Sproul Jr. is having. It makes some of them feel uncomfortable for some reason. an invitation to share his/her story. They will also confront you with a dose of reality about alcoholics. He had severe arthritis as well it totally crippled him to the point he could not work, took gold shots, eventually, the treatment and bad medical advice killed him. Then he orders his church to shun the entire family, including small children. Years later when I was a senior dating an older guy (in his twenties, lol) who took me to a college party about an hour from home, I made him promise me that he would not add anything to my Coke. I cannot even imagine that a church would have no means of church discipline at all, the world being what it is and scripture saying what it does. One theme Im getting from your numerous replies, and in spite of your protests to the contrary, is that a persons alcoholism should out-weight all else, and excuse that person. I have no doubt that it wasnt the first time by any means that R.C. I dont have a lot of hope that this will happen, however. Perhaps the Serenity Prayer, usually ascribed to Reinhold Niebuhr, will help some of us: God grant me the serenity to accept the things I cannot change, Courage to change the things I can, It can also be very hard to live with one. I see this all the time too. I read that on Wade Burlesons blog. There are people who are alcoholics and yes, the first drink (beer, etc.) That doesnt mean there arent possibly a whole host of them out there. I am sure RC2 was given all types of preferential treatment due his being related to RC. This truck had lap belts, which Im pretty sure we werent using. Vesta Voorhis Sproul (age 84) is currently listed at 347 Bellview Pl, Sanford, 32771 Florida and is affiliated with the Republican Party of Florida. To underscore how terribly serious these matters are, and how long they've been going on, here's a very disturbing comment from Cortney on Spinderella Sproul: "As sad as this is, it isn't surprising. Some never recover, some fully recover- but all live with the result of where they are and how they got there one way or another. When and if the program successfully completed, I would have fewer reservations with a pastor returning to the pulpit, as long as other behaviors are not present. This issue has come up several times before on TWW, and I think it has been used at times to excuse bad behavior which perhaps should not have been excused under the idea that people have to be forgiven for bad behavior is there is some history of trauma in their lives. ~ja]. I turned 13 about a month after the wreck and felt like a freak! I communicated directly with one of his children and received confirmed that this quote was from one of them (and also received permission to post it here). The state does not usually come up with the funds for treatment. That trial had beenscheduled for June 6, 2017. It works some of the time. See also Tullian Tchividjian. And it compounds their pain and affects those around them also. because when a person is educated in ethical and moral behavior, they KNOW what it is and WHY departing from it is harmful and hurtful, so they are able to grow in examining their own conscience and responding accordingly .. they are able to listen to the promptings of the Holy Spirit and make course correction before making ship-wreck of their faith, I think solid Christian formation is far more productive and healing than the miserable anecdotes I hear about of Church discipline which seems so negative and punitive and results in public SHAMING, something that is very destructive for any person, Christian formation is education and the root of the word discipline is that one learns . And if it is not, then they may very well continue to self-medicate in self-destructive ways, yes. We have friends who still go to our former church who are blind and brainwashed. Its non stop catering to their lifestyle. Methinks you proclaimed the gospel. Introducing The Keller Center. She was born on May 29, 1932 in Holbrook, Arizona to Harry and Dorothy Downey. but only if the person is dead serious about sobriety. @ Deborah Coan: So you fully agree with what Sproul wrote in that article? so pushing anger down is exhausting and depressing and being able to BE angry openly is a step in the right direction, My husband likes to read Peanuts and is always amused when he can announce that Im having a crab-in a la Lucy Van Pelt. (And we are all frustrated with the double standards we have seen!!) I wont deny though that it may have fallen short. Am still not seeing how sitting about with other people will cure certain issues such as alcoholism. Whatever that hurt is, it must be addressed. Fill in your details below or click an icon to log in: You are commenting using your WordPress.com account. Perhaps she is basing it on much more than that. @ Christiane: I happen to see the public health aspects of alcoholism and drug addiction differently than you and Barbara (and Julie Anne) see them. That night I was alone, my mother was somewhere around the city or in the hospital, he was in recovery and my nephew was with a neighbor. If any are reading and know what Im talking about, please contact me. This is beyond shocking. Barbara trotted out the classic evangelical line that people with these problems arent real Christians, arent bearing fruit, etc. Its good that you told your parents about it, and its good they protected you from further harm. I have noticed that you get stuck in a rut and keep going over the same thing over and over again, even though you know the issues have already been covered and logically and responsibly discussed. I pray one day my conscience will grow stronger, so that this wouldnt be necessary. This does not give any of us an excuse to walk in disobedience to the Lord as he has.. According to Ligonier Ministries: Dr. R.C. My point was that RC Jr. appears to be / have been a controlling cult leader, which is similar to what your ex-pastor sounds like from what I remember reading. Family and friends are welcome to leave their condolences on this memorial page and share them with the family. And he doesnt strike me as a would-be follower, so hed have to start another church and lead it in a sober way, and with his record of installing yes-men to advise him in his former churches, the outlook just does not seem terribly optimistic, to be realistic. I suppose its not really known for certain what causes the onset of alcoholism what, for instance, makes some people more susceptible to it than others. Thank you Lisa for your comments here. To my shame I must say that we have been weak by comparison. Thats wonderful, Leslie, that you started a safe group that was so helpful to other parents. I have observed and experienced this truth throughout my own life. Just my take on it. I think the way these churches do it IS called accountability groups where people are urged to confess everything to the group and Im not sure what happens next . It is very sad that money, power and prestige can buy one out of justice. The pain is awful, particularly when loved ones have been snatched away because someone foolishly chose to drink and drive. ), We tell our readers that we prefer them not to use the word codependent when describing victims of domestic abuse. Velour has been advocate for many hurting people here on this blog, offering prayer lists, Sproul, Jr. Steps Down from Ligonier Ministries and Reformation BibleCollege, RC Sproul Jr Is Now a Convicted Felon Alcoholic and Is One Step Away From a Tragedy, RC Sproul Jr. Avoids Prison, Takes Plea Deal for Driving Drunk With Kids, https://relevantmagazine.com/god/rc-sproul-jr-suspended-ministry-after-admitting-visiting-ashley-madison/. Why do you feel the need to assume things about people without asking? You asked why my specialty was. Somehow, he recovered, fathered a son, but soon was drinking again. She was in the hospital for several months after the accident. With as much as hes paying his attorney, and as competent as his attorney is, he could very well convince the court to drop the felony and convert it to a misdemeanor. I would dearly love to avoid the aforesaid black hole, and so I wont attach this point to any particular name, but I agree with it: if indeed Mr Sprouls executive oversight of the organisation is as it has been described here, then alcohol is one more reason he needs to be removed, not just as CEO, but from membership of the organisation. I dont doubt any of the bad things that people claim that R.C. You deal really well with troubled waters. I wasnt talking about you or about what you said. Im not uncomfortable with Barbs rules. Thanks for sharing. There doesnt appear to be any agreement in their doctrines at all. Its absolutely inexcusable. The Bible says that those who profess to be brothers in Christ and are drunkards need to be expelled from the church. and me that she believes that people with addictions should be kicked out of the church and that the problem and H.U.G. Please stop advocating for his children? having some things to answer for. RC Sproul passed on, aged 78 years, on December 14, 2017 in Altamonte Springs, Seminole County, Florida. ignore the fact that he was, in fact, treating his depression. It is also worthy of note here that she was not a church pastor/leader who was preaching to believers from a church pulpit. The church. No, we have theological differences about how people in the church with addictions should be handled kicked out. They dont even know anything about the treatment programs you refer to, nor will they take the time to learn. But I was just there, I was always there never moving not flinching no matter what I was there. 0SD#SHo D endstream endobj startxref 0 %%EOF 545 0 obj <>stream Im wondering what it means for people like me who are members of SBC churches that are not (yet) Calvinistic. Many resources already exist and are perfectly fine. Her parents didnt get to see her graduate from high school or college. My friend's injuries were so severe that she was in the hospital at UNC for months and months. Being a drunkard is just a symptom of some much deeper issues. When those boundaries get repeatedly violated then a marital separation might be called for, although it doesnt always need to even be a legal separation filed in the courts. My heart aches for what RC must have had to deal with and for what Vesta and Jrs children still deal with today. and Rank awarded by Divine Right Hath the Most Privileges of All. If nothing else, theyll get a breather. Sproul Jr and the Pittsburgh Pirates. Yes, she and I are in agreement on that point. If you posted something negative about Dee or Barb at my blog as you have here, Id remove your comment, too. Ive taken alky friends and acquaintances to AA meetings, so I know both programs pretty well. He didnt just feel forsaken; he was forsaken. Many members of St. Peter Presbyterian Church, the church that he started in Virginia, and then subsequently resigned from after hisdefrocking in 2006, often witnessed RC Sproul Jr inebriated, including at various church celebrations (i.e. I sustained serious injuries as well a skull fracture, broken bones, and quite a few cuts (I am blessed that I didnt lose my eyesight because I had lacerations above both eyes). See how much jail time the gossipers serve. If that wasnt bad enough, look who wrote the books foreword: Tullian Tchividjian Coral Ridge Presbyterian Churchs ousted pastor who was caught in serial clergy sexual misconduct, and who has never repented to the victims he harmed! You tried to paint me with the same brush, but I happened to read your response and corrected you. That is not repentance, no. People go at their own pace. I wonder whether RC Sproul Senior has accepted that fact yet? 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